4 Ways to Teach Your Child Anger Management
Whether it is aggression, conflict, disrespect, or oppositional behavior, it is essential for each parent to teach their child on how to control their anger or manage it in a better, more productive, way. Teaching your child anger management skills will improve their behavior and allow your child to learn one of the most valuable lessons in life.
1. Differentiating between behavior and feelings
Children are usually confused between aggressive behavior and angry feelings. Teach your child about feelings so that he may be able to verbalize their feelings of any anger or aggression they have been holding in. teach the child how to identify and verbalize all his feelings instead of acting out because of it.
You can also tell your child that this feeling is natural and it’s okay to be angry. This way your child will be more encouraged to reveal his feelings to you verbally.
2. Be a role model for anger management skills
As a parent, you are the first person a child starts to copy and learn from. You need to make sure that you do not react in a negative way to your own feelings of anger because children are very quick to grasp onto such behavior. Instead, when in front of your child, exclaim how mad you are through words and also state a solution at the end for yourself, which will help you lessen the anger. And if you do lose control in front of your children, apologize to them and tell them that you shouldn’t have done what you just did. And tell them what you should have done instead to cool off your anger.
3. Establish some anger rules
Most families have some unofficial; rules on what’s right and acceptable and what’s wrong and unacceptable. Write down some household rules like “no banging doors” or “no shouting” to make it clear to kids that which type of behavior will make them suffer from consequences.
All the anger rules should be concentrated around respecting others because they need to learn that just because they are angry, does not mean it’s okay for them to hurt someone. You will also need to address physical aggression like name calling, property destruction and throwing things when they are mad.
4. Teach them a healthier way to manage anger
Don’t just stop you children from lashing out. Follow it up with what they should do instead, to control their anger. Taking a time out is a good and effective way in order to allow them to cool off and think of possible solutions. Children can also benefit from learning how to cope with difficult people. Whenever they feel frustrated tell them to take a break and sit alone for some time to think over things. Teach them how to solve problems and encourage their solutions and help make them better.
Following these steps is sure to teach your child on how to manage their hanger without hurting or destroying something.