Is There a ‘Right’ Way to Dress If You’re in a Relationship?

The offending attire that sparked a KVJ listener to call in and complain about his girlfriend. (Photo: Facebook)

If you’re Kanye West, you like your lady in skintight or barely there beige outfits. But not everyone is Kanye, and some men prefer to see their girlfriends more covered up — and this is a preference that has KVJ show listeners up in arms. 

The Florida radio show posted a composite image to Facebook, picturing a woman in various tank tops and a bikini top. Due to the angle of the photos, the young woman’s cleavage is visible, but her attire doesn’t seem particularly provocative or out of the ordinary if you think about what the average woman would wear on a hot day in Florida. But according to KVJ, the caller complained “his GF’s clothes are too revealing, and she needs to dress like she is in a relationship.” 

Most of the commenters found the caller’s concern to be way off-base. “WTF is ‘dress like she’s in a relationship’???! This idiot male must love burkas,” one person quipped. “Seriously? They’re tank tops. This IS Florida dude. Get a grip on your insecurities or you’re gonna lose her,” another commenter wrote. “There is nothing more unattractive then a jealous, controlling, b***h of a man. A tank top in Florida is pretty much normal wear for *most* occasions, especially outside. He should just be happy she’s chosen him and be secure in that choice. As long as she acts appropriately … i.e. no flirting, cheating with other men, there should never be an issue with what she’s wearing. And if he is ‘embarrassed’ by her, he shouldn’t be with her, period.”

Some people argued that the angle of the photos made the outfits look more revealing than they actually are, suggesting that maybe the young woman should reconsider how she takes pictures in order to be more respectful to her boyfriend’s feelings. But to us, it sounds like the boyfriend simply needs to start seeing his girlfriend as a person instead of a billboard.

What does dressing like you’re “in a relationship” even mean? Turtlenecks? Mom jeans? Baggy T-shirts and chunky sweaters? The notion that a woman should somehow dress like a Mormon sister wife once they’re dating a guy is ridiculous. Who is this (extremely possessive and controlling) guy to dictate what his girl wears? It seems the fellow didn’t have that much of a problem with his girlfriend’s attire before getting with her. We can understand that some guys might feel uncomfortable with other men checking out their girlfriends, but, um, if you have a hot girlfriend, people — girls and guys — are going to look! And the point is, it’s just looking. As long as your significant other is faithful, what does it matter how she dresses? Notions of propriety are so arbitrary, and it seems oppressive to be scrutinizing a woman you allegedly love over a few tank tops and just a bit of cleavage. 

The “provocative” outfit that made some creep on the subway harass Christen Brandt. (Photo: Facebook)

Besides, covering up isn’t going to make a woman less likely to catch a man’s eye. Consider Christen Brandt, who posted an image of herself  to Facebook bundled up in a scarf, parka, and boots. “This is what I was wearing this morning as I made my way through a crowded 34th Street subway station, and a man passing by me said, ‘Damn, you have some great legs,’” Brandt wrote. “When I ignored him and kept walking, he turned around to follow me, to get closer, even as I was moving away. ‘Did you hear me, honey? I said you have nice legs. Damn! Thank you.’” 

Even dressed in a manner that revealed almost none of her body, she still was harassed by a gross, immature fellow. If the KVJ caller’s real concern is his girlfriend being harassed by unseemly dudes, perhaps he should do the work to tell his fellow men that that behavior is unacceptable. But we’re guessing this particular guy is more concerned about his own pride, as opposed to his girlfriend’s safety.

Back in December, Ayesha Curry sparked a huge debate on the Internet when she tweeted about the revealing clothing favored by some famous women these days. “Everyone’s into barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters,” she tweeted. Whether you agree with her statement or not, the bottom line is Curry is an autonomous person and can choose to wear whatever she wants. The same applies to this guy’s girlfriend. If you want to date someone who dresses like a nun, there are plenty of women out there who can fulfill that. But if you love your girlfriend, were attracted to her before you were dating her, and she dressed the same way, perhaps the problem is with you and not with what she’s wearing. 

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